If you have no trouble at all with alcohol - you are trying to understand something you have no idea about - no experience.
Let's take 'sex' for instance.
I come to you and tell you that I just had the most satisfying and exciting sexual encounter in my life!
- But you've never done IT!
How are you going to truly know what I am talking about?
Well! You could buy some books - look at some XXX-movies and get rather well informed - even get a momentary 'hands-on' experience ;) ...but you would be nowhere near understanding 'my' experience - unless you went out and had some of IT.
Alcoholism is a truly baffling monster.
- for the none-active-alcoholic dealing/helping/sponsoring active alcoholics it can be just as baffling and frustrating sometimes as for the 'normal' person.