Susan, you trust the books you read, I do the same, with a very few exceptions. You want your beliefs to be true, and I want mine, so we read the books we like.
I trust the many books I have read more than I trust your opinions.
I don't understand wanting my beliefs to be true. Never once have I thought that. Can you explain why you want yours to be true?
I want to know WHETHER OR NOT my beliefs are true. It they are true, great; if not, then I find a different belief that's a better fit for reality and still has a shot at being true.
It's for that reason I am FAR more likely to read books which disagree with my POV than I am those that support my beliefs. I already have the belief, so I don't need any more confirmation to convince me; what I need is confidence that the belief is true. I find that by examining the alternative beliefs and the counterarguments to my "best fit" belief.
I've abandoned plenty of beliefs because I came to see they were not true in the ways I needed them to be true. Many of those beliefs I really would have prefer not to have abandoned, all things being equal. Catholicism is a big one of those, with all the history with my family and cultural connections dating back thousands of years.
I suspect part of the friction I can generate is because of this mismatch in agenda. I'm wanting to find out whether my beliefs are false so I can abandon them, while other people are wanting and hoping their beliefs are true so they don't have to abandon them. I can definitely see where that can cause problems.