But is it enough to just question our 'self'? What if the self doesn't have enough information?
We can certainly think on things, but that just stays in the head until we let it out...we can ask a question and seek an answer, but how do we know what the answer will do until we use the answer in some way?
It can't be enough to believe something and do nothing with it. A new answer has to be tested in some way so that we can be solid with it, and know that really, it doesn't change who we are: we matter to ourselves firstly, and we gotta be sure of that before we can actually matter to anyone else.
We are gregarious by nature, and I for one don't want someone else to think I don't care about them, and I'll show how much I care by putting myself through the wringer first and come out quite fine so another may put themself through a smaller wringer with something they aren't sure of, and know that if it gets a little topsy-turvy, just reach out and grab a lifeline to steady them...look at the easiness of it...some folk are quite strong and unpretentious and won't judge a true effort to get rid of absurdities that can hold us back from living a truly happy life.